Surround Yourself With the Right People

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A lot, if not most of us, are extremely motivated and want to achieve all of our goals. It doesn’t have to be just business. Maybe it’s fitness, travel, and so on. As it turns out, you might not achieve your goals, and one of the contributing factors can stem from who we surround ourselves with.

This isn’t something that is simply done. We all have friends, family members, or work colleagues that we enjoy being around; however, they might not have the same mindset as you. This is crucial, and can possibly result in you holding yourself back from pursuing the life that you want, or have always dreamed of. You have to be willing to sacrifice the time you spent hanging out with these people. Instead, begin dedicating it to other activities and people that have similar goals and aspirations.

“Surround yourself with people that inspire and encourage positive change in your life.”

Positivity is contagious; but so is negativity. The process of “auditing” the ones you surround yourself with is commonly spoke about in the motivation speaking community. In essence, take the time to analyze who you spend most of your time with. The questions you want to ask yourself are:

  • What activities do they enjoy?
  • When you talk, what are the common topics in your conversations?
  • What goals have they set for themself?

It might seem selfish at first, and you may not particularly enjoy it. But, it is necessary if you want to move forward. You have to be willing to make the necessary changes in your life in order to get closer to the goals you set. There are a bunch of positives that can result from this. You can begin to inspire your friends and family to be more positive in their day to day life. We all have the ability to influence those around us, so by making these changes for yourself, you can be the starting factor in inspiring those closest to you.

After you have taken the time to audit the individuals that you surround yourself with, you now can begin to surround yourself with the right people.

It’s imperative to start using social media. Not only does it give you access to millions of people, but it also allows you to network and reach out to people who share your mindset. A simple Direct Message (DM) can go a long way.

During this time, it may benefit you to change the locations you frequent. While there may be a large crowd at a bar on a Friday night, the chances of you finding the right people to be around are slim. Let’s change that location to a cigar lounger, or a wine bar. Often, these places attract an older crowd, and add more value to you. There are also numerous networking events you can go to! It’s important to surround yourself with valuable people, even if you don’t have anything to offer yet!

Change doesn’t happen unless you put the time and effort to make it happen. No one is going to come to you, you have to go to them. In order to accomplish anything, consistency plays such a major factor. Getting around the right people doesn’t happen overnight. It requires a lot of time and effort and most importantly it requires the willingness to make the change. Do you have the mindset to actually execute these actions of attending the events, sending the messages, going to different places that you aren’t normally used to?

If you change your mindset, you will eventually be surrounded by like minded individuals, resulting in your life changing in a positive and exciting way.

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